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[palominocorn]

Okay, here's my thesis statement: if you want people to stop a behavior, you have to figure out why they're doing it, and find a way to fill that need otherwise.

Shame doesn't work. Peer pressure doesn't work. Begging doesn't work. Threats don't work. Demonstrations of the consequences of their behavior don't work.

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[yvannairie]

That, or treating things as obvious and me as defiant or a moron for not grasping them intuitively, yes. And often only explaining to me that there is more to consider than my own limited perspective in the most condescending way possible after first letting me assume the issue was surface deep. Also, thank you.

I think the important bit here we're both getting at is that people don't do things for no reason. I'm coming at it from "someone who knows their reasons might lack the full picture of what the situation is" and you coming at it from "you can't offer solutions without first identifying what the problem is that the person is solving with their behaviour".