Good idea, terrible execution

Five years in and I'm still fighting to figure out a good homebrew for four elements monk to make it a) viable b) balanced c) fun and d) true to the spirit in how it was intended.

TFW

You're agender and your spouse is probably somewhere on the genderfluid side, but your options are "same-sex spouse" or "opposite-sex spouse" when you fill out the US census.

Here, have some homemade neurodiversity!

Maybe what I need is a mug that says "You Don't Have to be Crazy to be Related to Me, But You Probably Are Because Heredity is a Cruel Mistress".

(This is not normal for me)

I am having the fucking delightful (/s) experience of my head feeling just fine, but my brain being unable to do most of the tasks I would like it to do, like "comprehend the things I am reading" or "basic math" or "filter out tiny, inconsequential noises instead of dumping them straight into my attention span".