...wasn't this the norm in the 80's? How is it a radical talking point today?

[palominocorn]

"But where do you draw the line between queer and not queer?"

How about we don't? How about we let people decide, individually, whether queer is an identity that works for them? And how about if someone is calling themself queer and also being a jerk, we tell them to stop being a jerk instead of not identifying as queer?