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Or, possibly I'm imagining malicious intent where there was none. (I mean, my family was messed up either way, but maybe those particular instances weren't.)
I've noticed that in my thought patterns lately. I'm turning into my father. I'm suspicious. I assume that when people do something hurtful, they did it on purpose. I ascribe malicious intent to people who have no way of knowing I exist. Usually these incidents blow over within a few days at the most, and then I promptly forget about them... but I've noticed the pattern. (And my partner has confirmed that I've been verbalizing these thoughts too.)
I'm terrified of what I might become. It's already having a negative impact on my marriage. How long until it starts affecting other relationships (if it isn't already)? How am I going to maintain any sort of interpersonal contact with this mindset? How can I possibly raise kids in the same awful environment I grew up in?
I've noticed that in my thought patterns lately. I'm turning into my father. I'm suspicious. I assume that when people do something hurtful, they did it on purpose. I ascribe malicious intent to people who have no way of knowing I exist. Usually these incidents blow over within a few days at the most, and then I promptly forget about them... but I've noticed the pattern. (And my partner has confirmed that I've been verbalizing these thoughts too.)
I'm terrified of what I might become. It's already having a negative impact on my marriage. How long until it starts affecting other relationships (if it isn't already)? How am I going to maintain any sort of interpersonal contact with this mindset? How can I possibly raise kids in the same awful environment I grew up in?