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"Characters in fiction sure do get pregnant easily" says person born from a mother who was supposed to be incapable of having a baby after serious abdominal surgery.
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I don't remember anything about my dream this morning except someone telling me "the void is pregnant" and I really wish I had some context to that one.
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I don't understand why guys who cheat on their partners will say "she was pregnant" as a justification.
You admit that when you needed to be preparing for the responsibility of a new baby and supporting your partner who was going through a physically difficult experience, you instead found someone else to make goo goo eyes (and genitals) at? And you think that this is somehow going to *improve* my opinion of you?
You admit that when you needed to be preparing for the responsibility of a new baby and supporting your partner who was going through a physically difficult experience, you instead found someone else to make goo goo eyes (and genitals) at? And you think that this is somehow going to *improve* my opinion of you?
I couldn't remember the word "uterus" or "womb" or anything, so I went with "inner mammal fetus pouch" which is what it is, but also makes it sound super gross.
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My mother was of the opinion that you should never speak to a childless woman* about pregnancy and childbirth because "if they knew the truth, they'd never choose to have kids!"
I kind of filed that away in the "crap opinions my mother has" section of my memory, but thinking about it, holy crap. "Let's just withhold this super important information about a major life choice in order to get people to make the only decision I think is proper!"
*trans-lation: person capable of pregnancy
I kind of filed that away in the "crap opinions my mother has" section of my memory, but thinking about it, holy crap. "Let's just withhold this super important information about a major life choice in order to get people to make the only decision I think is proper!"
*trans-lation: person capable of pregnancy
I'm reading an article about transness and reproduction, and it has lovely lines like "you need an assigned male and an assigned female to get sperm, eggs, and a uterus" and that particular phrasing is making me see so much red.
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My mother told me that if I was ever 50% responsible for an unwanted pregnancy, my partner and I were not to abort but to give the baby to her to raise. In fact, she would physically prevent us from going to the clinic if we tried!
I don't understand why she thought that, after a lifetime of horrible abuse, I would hand over another innocent kid predisposed to the same brain stuff to meet the same fate.
I don't understand why she thought that, after a lifetime of horrible abuse, I would hand over another innocent kid predisposed to the same brain stuff to meet the same fate.
When I was younger (muuuuuuuch younger), the Autism Moms(TM) and their like were very big on "don't say you're depressed, say you have depression, because you wouldn't say that you are cancer!"
And I'm thinking about that and laughing about applying that to my other identities.
I'm not trans, I have transgenderism!
I'm not bi, I have biness!
I'm not mixed race, I have... uhhhh... racial variation in my ancestry!
And some more that don't apply to me...
You're not pregnant, you have a fetus growing inside of you!
You're not a woman, you are in possession of a female gender!
You're not poor, you laaaaaack mooooooney!
...I mean, for all I know, someone really has said these things. That would make me pretty depressed.
And I'm thinking about that and laughing about applying that to my other identities.
I'm not trans, I have transgenderism!
I'm not bi, I have biness!
I'm not mixed race, I have... uhhhh... racial variation in my ancestry!
And some more that don't apply to me...
You're not pregnant, you have a fetus growing inside of you!
You're not a woman, you are in possession of a female gender!
You're not poor, you laaaaaack mooooooney!
...I mean, for all I know, someone really has said these things. That would make me pretty depressed.
Supposedly, some Medieval people believed that lefties were people who were conceived as twins and then ate the other one in the womb.
I heard this possibly-factoid around the time that I met a pair of twins, both left-handed.
I heard this possibly-factoid around the time that I met a pair of twins, both left-handed.
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Someone brought up the negative aspects of adoption and recommended some reading. I haven't gotten a hold of the book yet, but the online stuff is all like... "there's a SPECIAL BOND that forms between mother and child during pregnancy and shattering it leaves gaping wounds in both" and... okay, first of all, misgendering, second of all, surrogacy is a thing and it's been around for years now, and third, just 'cause I came out of her vagina doesn't mean we love each other like Care Bears.
"I'm not going to [some basic thing like covering your mouth when you sneeze, washing your hands after using the bathroom, get vaccinated, take all my antibiotics as prescribed] because I'm healthy and that 0.01% risk doesn't bother me!"
Okay, but here's the thing: you live in a society. And society always has someone else - person carrying a high-risk pregnancy, person going through chemotherapy, person with AIDS, elderly person whose immune system is doing devil-knows-what at this point - for whom that IS too much of a risk. You want to be the one who got them sick with the disease that killed them?
Okay, but here's the thing: you live in a society. And society always has someone else - person carrying a high-risk pregnancy, person going through chemotherapy, person with AIDS, elderly person whose immune system is doing devil-knows-what at this point - for whom that IS too much of a risk. You want to be the one who got them sick with the disease that killed them?
I had a nightmare that rich people decided that everyone below upper middle class was expendable, so I ended up in a sorting line (kind of like the kind they use with cattle or something) with a bunch of other people, where people were determining whether to break our bodies down for food, use us to carry and birth rich people's children, or send us off to hard manual labor.
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"The Y chromosome is passed on from father to son" is biologically and socially wrong, but it's much easier than "the Y chromosome usually but not always makes a person develop a high-testostetone body with a penis and testicles, which often means they can impregnate someone and pass it on to half the resulting offspring, who will go through the same process" (still very simplified).
Many, many years ago, I had a conversation with my mother that went like this:
Mother: "By the way, your cousin [name] gave birth a few days ago."
Me: "She was pregnant?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!"
Mother: "By the way, your cousin [name] gave birth a few days ago."
Me: "She was pregnant?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!"
Here's an example of sizeism in action for you: my mother refuses to believe that she gained weight. So when her pant size went up after each pregnancy (which is, you know, totally normal, pregnancy does all sorts of wacky things to your hormone balance), she convinced herself that her pelvic bone got wider.
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