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[palominocorn]

Honestly, I think the question isn't "why do women moan and scream during sex" but "why don't people generally nonverbally vocalize their emotions more?"

(The answer is that society teaches us from a young age that showing emotions makes you weak and impolite, and sex is damn near the only time we're not aggressively taught to restrain our expression.)

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[redthedragon]

hell, not even then. (possibly tmi) i can't make noise during sex either, it does not work, ive made an effort for people and im just like "um??? oooh?" and its a fucking struggle lmao

[palominocorn]

Huh! If you don't mind me asking, what do you think is the reason you don't vocalize emotions?

[redthedragon]

permanent ongoing lack of privacy and familial disapproval during my developmental years, probably LMAO. Grew up in a house with three rooms, one of which i shared with both my siblings, and if I wanted privacy the bathroom and the bedrooms shared walls and there was no soundproofing. And i was "a crybaby" when I was a kid (ie: i would get frustrated and have responses verbally about it that weren't yelling and violence) so my entire family rode my ass on shutting the fuck up until I was like fifteen lmao

the lack of soundproofing or privacy did not stop me from hitting puberty though so it absolutely extended to "if i want to jerk off i have to do that in dead silence without breathhing too weird or someone will knock on the bathroom door and ask why i'm crying like a baby" LMAOOO

[palominocorn]

Red. Your family is fucked up. Good grief.

Do you want me to fistfight your parents?

[redthedragon]

honestly this is gonna sound insane but it did me more good than harm

when i turned about thirteen or fourteen i started getting semi-regular migraines and crying is a major migraine trigger to the degree that if i kick something really hard and my eyes start watering from having stubbed my toes i will get the beginnings of a headache. That trained me out of the remnants of that habit right quick but if I had to start then I would've been fucking screwed, lmaoo

and, like, on the other one, again this might be tmi but if you like public sex it helps to be perma-muted. i can jerk it in public while sitting at a table near other people and no one will notice. i don't do this any more but i was a weird teenager who didn't think anything wrong with it, and i have for real never been caught. it's a little tougher as a partner activity but it's still definitely easier that way lolol

[palominocorn]

Ooof. I hate that they did that to you, but I'm glad it worked out, at least. (My offer to fistfight your parents still stands though.)